A guide for families · 8 min read
A physician's perspective on what actually matters when choosing care for someone you love.
If you're reading this, chances are you're trying to figure out home care for someone you love — and you're discovering quickly that "home care" means a lot of different things, and that not all agencies are the same.
I'm an anesthesiologist by training, and I co-founded Tremendous Care because I kept seeing patients discharged from the hospital with vague plans and no real support waiting for them at home. What I've learned in the years since is that the differences between agencies aren't always visible from the outside — but they matter enormously once care actually starts.
This isn't a sales pitch. It's the five questions I'd want my own mother to ask any agency she was considering, regardless of who she ended up choosing.
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Why it matters
This is the most important question on this list, and the one most families don't know to ask.
When a caregiver is a W-2 employee of an agency, the agency:
When a caregiver is a 1099 independent contractor — common with online "registries" and some lower-cost agencies — the family is often considered the employer. That can mean you're personally liable for workers' comp, payroll taxes, and any incidents in the home. It also typically means there's no real training, no supervision, and no clear recourse if something goes wrong.
02
Why it matters
You're inviting someone into your loved one's home, often when they're at their most vulnerable. The vetting process should be rigorous, and the agency should be able to walk you through it without hedging.
What to listen for:
A useful follow-up: "Walk me through how you hired the last caregiver you brought on." The answer tells you a lot.
03
Why it matters
Caregivers get sick. They have family emergencies. They go on vacation. The question isn't whether shifts will need to be covered — it's how the agency handles it when they do. This question quietly separates real agencies from those that are essentially staffing one or two people and hoping nothing goes wrong.
For 24/7 care or higher-acuity situations, a good follow-up is: "How many caregivers will typically be in our regular rotation, and how do you handle continuity over time?"
04
Why it matters
The hourly rate isn't the full picture. Several contract terms can meaningfully affect what you actually pay each month and how flexible the arrangement is.
Specific things to ask about:
A good agency walks you through the contract before you sign anything. Verbal-only agreements, "don't worry about that," or fees that show up later are all reasons to keep looking.
05
Why it matters
Even with great caregivers, things come up. Medications change. Your loved one's mood shifts. The current caregiver turns out not to be the right fit. You need to know there's a real person — not just an answering service — who's accountable for sorting it out.
What to listen for:
The single best test: "What happens if we call at 8pm on a Saturday and there's a problem?" If the answer is "leave a message and we'll get back to you Monday," that's not the agency you want when things get hard.
Licensing. In California, every non-medical home care agency is required to be licensed by the Department of Social Services as a Home Care Organization (HCO). You can verify any agency's license through the state's HCO directory. If they're not licensed, that's a deal-breaker.
Agency vs. registry. Agencies employ caregivers and are responsible for them. Registries — including most online platforms that "connect you" with caregivers — refer independent contractors, and the family typically becomes the employer. Both can work, but the legal and operational implications are very different.
Medical vs. non-medical care. Non-medical home care covers help with bathing, dressing, meal prep, mobility, transportation, companionship, and medication reminders. It does not include skilled nursing tasks like wound care, injections, or administering medications — those require a licensed home health agency, which is a different category.
For what it's worth
Even just to think out loud — what's going on, what you're trying to figure out — I'm happy to do that. No pressure either way.
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